My ex-wife just got remarried. My children tell me that their new stepfather uses drugs, and that he becomes abusive to their mom and to them. I already have joint custody, but would like to seek primary or even sole custody. What can I do here?
If there has been a material change in your children’s circumstances, you can petition the court for a custody modification. Being exposed to drugs and abuse is absolutely a material change. The key here is you have to be able to prove the allegations. So begin keeping careful records. Jot down notes on anything your children tell you, and on any other evidence, such as bruises on your ex. Ask your ex if she is ok, or if she needs help. Then speak with a lawyer as quickly as possible. This may be a difficult battle, and abusive people often become more abusive when they get pushback. So it’s important to work with a legal team who knows how to manage these difficult situations.