My ex takes the kids to the doctor and dentist without me, and refuses to tell me about these appointments ahead of time. The providers will not let me see the kids’ medical records. What can I do here?
That depends on what your custody order says. Are you entitled to view medical records? If so, providers should be willing to share them if you show them the order. If they are still unwilling, you may need to get an attorney involved. Many custody orders entitle parents to attend all medical visits, so if your ex does not tell you about these visits ahead of time, consider having your attorney write a letter to her. In most cases, this is something you can resolve with a few hours of work from a lawyer.